1-Put parameters. Give your mother-in-law to understand that if or if, before visiting your house, she must notify them in advance, never make any quick decision, say things like: I will talk to my wife and we will notify you later. If he does not want to listen to you, cut off the habit of getting between the two of you, if he has house keys to go whenever he wants without having to warn you, change the lock on the door.
2-Get a phone that has voice messages and at the same time answering, in this way, you will be the one who decides when to be in the company of another person and not the opposite.
3- Keep in mind that these measures will have an effect on your wife, you have to teach her to start to get the idea that her mother has to respect her space, that she is not the same little girl as always where everything that happened to her was going running into his mother’s arms.
4-Communicate with your wife and make it very clear about the relationship with your mother-in-law, the ideal is for her to set limits for her mother about her new family and the mother has to respect what her daughter tells her, but you two they must 100% agree with that problem. You must do what is right for your wife and always respect the relationship he has with his mother, but explain and clearly explain your needs as a man and the space you need, but above all, let him be very aware that she is already an adult and that she must learn to solve their own problems without having to count on the support of their mother, which is time to learn to live their own lives without the intervention or interference of the parents.
5-Try to resolve the offenses or negative behaviors that your mother-in-law does, sometimes it may be that it offends you directly, at other times it may be done discreetly or trying to manipulate the situation, remember, your mother-in-law is not a demon, she is just trying not to lose his daughter.
Leave me your comments and give me your opinion if you have one of these mothers-in-law who wants to be getting into everything, or if she wants to be taking your life as if you were a child.
Hola tengo 4 años de casada, tengo un bebe de 10 meses, tengo mi casa arriba de la de mi suegra, todo estaba bien hasta que tuve a mi bebe fue cuando empezo todo con mi suegra, me trata como una niña a la que le tiene que decir como hacer las cosas, como si nunca hubiera cuidado niños piensa que soy una tonta, tiene que meterse en todo; que si que comio el bebe, que si como hace popo, como lo baño, que si mi esposo se sale con sus amigos tambien tengo que ir yo con el para que no beba alcohol y no llegue tarde, o si me quedo en casa y el se sale y ya es tarde y no llega tengo que andar buscandolo en las calles, tambien tiene que decirme que debo hacerle agua a mi esposo y edpecificamente de limón. hay han pasado tantas cosas la verdad yano se que hacer siempre me trago mi coraje muchas veces he querido responderle pero no puedo solo por respeto. Y por esas razones mejor no salgo para evitar enojos solo cuando ocupo algo del super o tortilleria o para visitar a mi familia, Pero cuando y la la veo lo que dice es que me la paso ensurrunada, que ya estoy como rapuncel en la torre. Ya no aguanto denme un consejo de que debo hacer, le cuento a mi esposo pero el siempre se pone de su lado que asi son todas las suegras que antes mejor de gracias por que me toco una buena suegra.. ^~^
Buenos diaas Sophia,
La verdad es que si es una situación seria, sientalos a los dos si es posible y hablales enserio y con la mano en el corazón. Diles que todo esto te causa mucho dolor y estres, que solo deseas vivir en armonia y paz. Si no ceden, consigue un trabajo y mudate, no te quedes ni les des segundas oportunidades! Ademas las abuelas aveces son asi, creeme!